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Meg Flores's avatar

an elderly woman returned her library book by setting it on the counter for the clerk (rather than throwing it quickly into the drop box isolated in the corner) and I was there too, checking out the pile my daughters had chosen. I had already read what she was returning and loved it so much I had to ask her if she did too. she had such a velvet voice when she answered, “Oh, yes!!” and we chatted a moment about “That ending!” “The mother was awful,” she said and I responded, “I know and Jeanette realized she could hate her, she didn’t have to romanticize her anymore.” that got a laugh, a knowing nod. we exchanged genuine smiles, eyes sparkling. I’ll likely never see her again but how beautiful that was, to stand in understanding on a Tuesday morning. more than hearting a photo of that book in my feed. I think over time social media engagement has tried to imitated this very real experience to the point that we assume we’re connected to thousands of people all the time when we’re not exactly ever. anyway, I love your socialite summer! this reaching, seeing, initiating, actually living.

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Tessa Blue's avatar

"There is no such thing as a waste of time when it comes to paying attention to people." this is such a beautiful sentiment and I love it.

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allie wisniewski's avatar

heavy on the 3-4 hour dinners!!! heavy on the european grocery shopping!!! heavy on the stone fruit in bulk!!! heavy on witnessing each other fully!!!

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Angelina Hazzouri's avatar

LOVE THIS SO MUCH

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G F's avatar

Such a good read and perfect timing. I really needed to read this going into summer, so thank you <3

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Katie Oldham's avatar

Incredibly special and slippery read that ran through my mind like silk - thank you !

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Charleen N Fike's avatar

I like all of your ideas Evie. Very well put and sound just like you. I believe you are a very friendly person naturally and should soon have many new friends. Keep on writing! I love reading your thoughts.

Grandma Charleen

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Dani Bee's avatar

This feels like a breath of fresh air. Your writing reads like a letter found tucked between the pages of a well-loved book. Jane Austen might have admired your social observations—your way of peering into the world with curiosity and gentleness. You don’t just see people; you witness them. There is a deep moral clarity in your declaration: “There is no such thing as a waste of time when it comes to paying attention to people.” That sentiment could have lived quite comfortably in Persuasion.

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Evie's avatar

dani… this comment is so meaningful and so flattering to me, thank you thank you thank you

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Beulah Waritimi's avatar

What a perfect read, as the flowers are starting to bloom 🥺

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Evie's avatar

💗💗💗

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Leigh's avatar

I love this! Best of luck ☺️

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BrainFudge's avatar

This was so good; I loved the how-to guide vibe. You should do a winter version!

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Evie's avatar

i have a winter version!! i published a few months ago hehe

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BrainFudge's avatar

I’ll go check it out, what did you call it ?

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Evie's avatar

how to survive the winter 💗

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Evie's avatar

loveee this, as someone who tells themselves they prefer spending free time alone, I know I need to make the effort to connect, enjoy and embrace life a bit more ☀️

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Yara Ameca's avatar

My new mindset for the rest of the summer. Thanks

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p.s.'s avatar

evieee !!!! walked to pablo y pablo for dinner the other day and thought of you, keeping the ice cream scooping question in my back pocket, read this on a bench in a park and felt incredibly seen!!! hope ur socialite summer is treating u oh so well <3

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Evie's avatar

you too 💗💗 i miss u!!!! also i miss pablo y pablo tacos 💔

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Nico Lethbridge's avatar

Love this post! I find it incredibly rewarding talking to strangers and think it has huge benefits for everything in life, from mental health to your ability to empathise. I personally do it through hitchhiking but I understand that's not for everyone - either way it's a beautiful way to connect with strangers and hear their stories. It's remarkable what you find out! All the best, Nico

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The Villain Era's avatar

As someone who is a forever introvert, I love this entire post and it has inspired me to do my own socialite summer

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